Self-mastery is the understanding and the ability to effectively manage your human experience through your thoughts, feelings, actions and responses.

Why is self-mastery so important?

Our childhood programming, traumas and indoctrination often leads to living a reactionary, unfulfilled and disenchanted life.

These are the causes of relationship toxicity, failed careers, financial turmoil, poor health and a sense of disconnection from the rest of the world.

Self-mastery is part of the personal evolutionary journey that every human takes. Everyone’s journey is different AND everyone is on this journey.

The phases of the journey are:

  1. Self Awareness
  2. Self Knowledge
  3. Self Development
  4. Self Mastery
  5. Self Actualisation
  6. Self Realisation


When you begin to be consciously observe your thoughts, feelings, intentions, words, actions and reactions, your self-awareness is said to increase.

Self Knowledge

During the self-awareness phase, you will gather information on your emotional drivers, values, principles and beliefs, etc. This information is based on objective observation rather than idealism. The self-knowledge allows you to get a clear snapshot of your current reality and how you have formed it.

Self Development

This is about the action steps you take to consciously evolve. Typically, in the personal development world, it is about learning lots of new techniques and skills

This often presupposes something is missing when nothing, in fact, is missing in actuality. I take a non-conventional approach. So rather  invest time, energy and effort on delayering the “veils” to your inner beauty.

This means primarily focus on letting go of emotional baggage at the deepest level possible. Then use the letting go process on a project-by-project basis every day.

Yes, you may need to learn some new skills, but these are few in number if you invest enough on letting go.

Self Mastery

This takes years of practice. It results as an accumulation of attitudes, habits, rituals and the responsiveness to each and every situation as it arises.

Self-mastery means squiring the highest level of emotional and spiritual intelligence. These are pre-requisites to impactful and transformational leadership.

Self Actualisation

Abraham Maslow’s hierarchy of needs has self-actualisation at the top of the pyramid. It is considered you are living a fulfilled life as all needs are taken care of. The 5 sets of needs are physiological, safety, belongingness, esteem, and finally self-actualisation.

Self Realisation

In Western thought, self-realisation looks similar to self-actualisation. In Indian philosophy, we consider it as the highest level of spiritual evolution.

In Buddhism, self-realisation (nirvikalpa samadhi, which means “ecstasy without form or seed,” or asamprajñata samādhi) is considered the ultimate spiritual attainment. Selfrealization is considered the gateway to moksha, liberation/freedom from rebirth.

In Hinduism, Hinduism, self-realisation (atma-jnana or atmabodha) is knowledge of the true self beyond both delusion and identification with material phenomena. It refers to self-identification and not mere ego identification.

Sufism is any means by which people become Sufis. The word “Sufi” comes from the Arabic word Safa`, which means pure, clean, complete. It implies having gone through the required personal disciplines of self-purification to attain to our original state.  “Sufi” implies being self-realised and confirmed – innocent, pure and forgiven in the eyes of God.

Thus, self-realisation is the ultimate goal: to let go of all attachments and aversions to desires to the degree that you can transcend the human experience.

Where do you begin?

As I said, everyone is on a different journey. Very few will self-realise. Nonetheless, most people have the capability to self-actualise.

It all begins at the beginning: start becoming self-aware. Stay still long enough to notice your patterns of inner and outer behaviours. Then change accordingly.

This is NOT a 5-minute job. Nor is it a daily chore. All it takes is 20-30 minutes of your day creating stillness and calm. Then just gently and slowly but surely your awareness increases.

This awareness is like brushing your teeth. It needs to be a habit. It takes 66 days to achieve automaticity. Then, like brushing your teeth, it feels unnatural when you ignore it.

In this regard, I’ve created a 66-Day Beingness programme for those who now choose a path of self-mastery. I am currently inviting m 1,000 participants to take the 66-Day challenge as a social experiment.

It is FREE to join. However, we ask for donations as a form of gratitude and energy exchange from participants. If you would like to begin your journey to self-mastery, then click here to begin the registration now: