Have you ever been in a situation where a friend, family member or even a colleague takes something relatively meaningless and create an entirely different story inside their head?
Of course, everybody at some point makes a mountain out of a molehill. However, sometimes it becomes a default characteristic trait in some cases. The entire world is centred around such an individual and empathy or compassion play no role in their thought process. The American Psychiatric Association call such a conditions as Histrionic personality disorder. Symptoms include:
- Exhibitionist behaviour
- Constant seeking of reassurance or approval
- Excessive sensitivity to criticism or disapproval
- Pride of own personality and unwillingness to change, viewing any change as a threat
- Inappropriately seductive appearance or behaviour of a sexual nature
- Using somatic symptoms (of physical illness) to garner attention
- A need to be the centre of attention
- Low tolerance for frustration or delayed gratification
- Rapidly shifting emotional states that may appear superficial or exaggerated to others
- Tendency to believe that relationships are more intimate than they actually are
- Making rash decisions
- Blaming personal failures or disappointments on others
- Being easily influenced by others, especially those who treat them approvingly
- Being overly dramatic and emotional
There is very little scientific research into the causes of Histrionic personality disorder. Having carried out over 1,000 energy healing sessions using the Total Heart Transformation protocols, it appears that the vast majority of this kind of personality disorder has its roots in the maternal and paternal relationships developed within the first 7-8 years of life.
In other words, the child-to-mother, child-to-father and the mother-to-father relationships have the most significant effect on the psychological make-up on the individual. For example, if a 6-year old girl suddenly arrives home to see her father leave her and her mother for another woman, the feelings of abandonment, rejection and disapproval will be imprinted into the girl’s emotional blueprint.
This blueprint will go onto influence her relationships with any significant males in her life as she grows up. Her subconscious mind will be programmed to expect any significant male to abandon and reject her and, in the case of this example, he will leave her for another woman.
The Consequences of Unwanted Feelings
Unexpressed emotional hurt and pain leads to continuous suffering. Initially, the hurt from the abandonment and rejection (as per the above case) leads to symptoms of Histrionic personality disorder (HPD).
People with HPD have a high need for attention, make loud and inappropriate appearances, exaggerate their behaviours and emotions, and crave stimulation. They may exhibit sexually provocative behaviour and can be easily influenced by others.
These symptoms can develop into narcissistic personality disorder and other attributes of energy vampirism. These include persistent manipulative behaviour to achieving their own needs. Everything they do or say is based on fulfilling their own needs, desires and insatiable desire for attention.
What can you do about HPD?
Of course, none of the symptoms of suffering need to come true. When our 6-year old girl turns into a woman and she sees the patterns in her significant relationships, she can stop those painful occurrences of rejection and abandonment. Unfortunately, it is exceptionally rare for individuals to have the awareness of the patterns let alone have the know-how to transmute their suffering. It is during these times that therapists, healers and guides are most useful.
If you are in a relationship with someone with HPD, then it is extremely difficult to change them. They will see everyone else as having the problem and is highly likely to blame you and others for any conflict. It is never them.
The only time there is a narrow window of a chance a HPD individual will change is when they hit rock bottom. I mean real rock bottom. That may mean a broken relationship that has left them in deep pain. Of course, if they can run to the next relationship to avoid addressing the issue, they will.
If you recognise as having HPD symptoms, then there is hope. There are only four ways to deal with any unwanted feelings that you create for yourself:
- Express the feelings
- Suppress the feelings
- Release the feelings
How to manage your Histrionic personality disorder?
- Keep a journal. Every day spend 10-15 minutes writing about your most significant experiences of the day. Pay particular attention to emotions that were triggered in you and those you triggered in others. Also notice if people are feeling energised by your words or even presence and notice if they are depleted by your presence.
- Meditate at least 10 minutes a day. This will give you a better rein of the stories you create inside of your head.
- Learn the practice of letting go or releasing. Otherwise, learn from an experienced teacher, healer or therapist.
- Keep a gratitude journal where you write down a short list of all the things you are grateful for in your life. The more you count your blessings, the more blessings you will get to count.
How the Total Heart Transformation Method Helps
If you’re reading this article, I’m guessing you are older than 8-years of age! If you’re thirty, for example, you’ve lived from your emotional blueprint or ‘Life Map’ for 22-23 years. If you have the desire to change that Life Map, it means addressing the cause of all your pain and suffering that have led you to your current condition.
The Total Heart Transformation (THT) method addresses all the causes that have led you to developing HPD. This means painstakingly searching out the most significant childhood memories and dissolving the emotional charges associated with them. Once you take away the emotional charged from a painful experience, you are left with pure wisdom. Furthermore, all suffering and patterns related to that experience stop.
The THT method helps you to rebuild a new Life Map from which to operate. Failing to create a new Life Map will lead to the patient/client living from the only emotional blueprint they know.
If you have to live with or deal with an individual with HPD, it is extraordinarily challenging. Where you can avoid such people or circumstances, it is best to do so. They will never change at your bequest. If they do change, it is because they have finally woken up to their own thinking and behaviour. Telling them they have such a problem does not work!
Despite the pessimistic psychiatric view, an individual with HPD can, should they have the willingness and desire, can change their condition. It often requires wholesale change of the thinking patterns, emotional expression, behaviours and attitude towards others. Nonetheless, there is hope.
Love and gratitude,